If you want to write yourself a new love story, it’s time to break free of old patterns and cycles, and above all stop dwelling in the past.

In episode 4, Nancy dishes out some wisdom on how to get clear about what you want. She says that a great first date is all about the hint of potential, not a love-bomb or emotional rollercoaster.

Too often the questions we ask ourselves on a date are: “Am I feeling this?” “Is there chemistry?” “Is he into me?” The better questions are: “How could this person add to my life?” “How could I add to his?”

Nancy shares how she went from being a professional ruminator – constantly reliving old stories and mistakes – to realizing that living in the past pulls you away from what you really want in your life NOW. It might feel comforting and familiar, but it won't get you anywhere new.

Dating in midlife can be one of the best ways to get to know yourself…and guess what, you just may discover a whole new you.

9:41: “Sometimes the wrong kind of love can be a form of insanity.”