Getting back into dating can be hard – here’s a good place to start.
First, the good news: At this point in your life, chances are you know what you like, you’re pretty clear about what you want, and you're not afraid to be honest about what you should avoid at all costs.
Embrace Your Experience
You know these things because you’ve lived your life for decades. You’ve experienced the ups and downs, the twists and turns, of being a romantically inclined person, out there in the world looking for (and sometimes finding) love. Trial and error is the spice of life, and you’ve been mixing it up. Good for you!
The Importance of Mindset
Maybe you’ve taken a little hiatus from dating. Maybe a long-term relationship has ended and you’re newly single. Or perhaps you’ve been in the dating game for years, even decades. Whatever path you’re on, now is the time to reboot and refresh your mindset for Finding Love.
Mindset matters because it directs your attention to what you’re trying to attract and achieve.
Mindset is not just about being positive, or keeping your energy high, or making sure you have an open mind. Mindset is about what you focus on. What you pay attention to. What you allow yourself to see.
Harness the Power of Intention
When you develop a mindset that is primed for Finding Love, you will see opportunities for connection and romance much more frequently than you would with a mindset geared toward self-doubt, skepticism, and isolation.
When you say to yourself and to the universe – I am ready for love. I want to find love. It’s important to me that I have a romantic partner, a trusted soulmate, and I'm not going to stop until I find that person – you become a divining rod for attraction. And it is not just universal magic at play (although that’s part of it). It’s the power of your intention.
Love is a creative act. And you are a powerful creator.
Like any creative act, the more practice it, the better you become. Writers write, painters paint, musicians make music – every day. If you want to be a lover, you have to practice the frequency of love. Here are three things to try…
Declare your intention: Say the words out loud, write them in your journal, sing them in the shower. Make your intention your daily mantra: I am ready for love. I will look for it everywhere, even in unlikely places. I acknowledge that it may not come in the form I’m accustomed to. I am open to surprises.
Trust your intuition: Your inner wisdom can guide you so much better when you allow yourself to trust the way you FEEL about the people you meet. Not their physical characteristics, financial status, or lifestyle attributes – but how you feel when you’re in their presence. That is your emotional GPS lighting up your path, showing you the way.
Indulge your dream: When you envision love in your life, you move closer and closer to manifesting it. Practice imagining what your love story looks, sounds, and feels like. Daydream, doodle, fantasize about the life you and your partner will create together. Indulge yourself in your dream of love. This will help you make energetic space in your life for your soulmate to appear.
take charge of your destiny
Mindset matters because every day, you are actively creating your own experience. Don’t wait for circumstances to collide, or luck to intervene. Take charge of your destiny. You can have exactly the love life you want when you make your mindset work for you.
